Thoughts on Challenging Us to be Titus 2 Women - By Bill Reeves, Part 3 Tags: Biblical Encouragement homemaking Titus 2


THOUGHTS ON CHALLENGING US TO BE TITUS 2 WOMEN BY BILL REEVES PART 3. They are to be subject to their own husbands as to the Lord.


Lastly, married young women are to be subject to their own husbands. Started with “love your husband” and end with being “subject to your own husband.” They are to be subject to their own husbands as to the Lord.

“For the husband is the head of the wife, as Christ also is head of the church, He Himself being the Savior of the body.  But as the church is subject to Christ, so also the wives ought to be to their husbands in everything.” (Eph. 5: 22-24)


  • Wives are to submit to their own husbands as to the Lord.
  • John MacArthur – “A woman doesn’t know how to bow her knee to God until she learns how to bow her knee to her husband.”
  • We’re not talking about attitude or behavior fit for a slave; it simply means that she submits as God has designed the order.


  • God is the head of Christ – Christ is the head of man and 1 Cor. 11 says “and the man is the head of the woman” – she is subject to her own husband.
    A concept condemned by the world as archaic.
  • We’ve talked about a woman’s character and her priorities.
  • What’s her motive to be?
  • What’s the purpose in all of these injunctions?
  • “that the Word of God may not be dishonored.” Dishonored means to blaspheme or defame.
  • The point Paul is emphasizing is that it is not only the evil things we say and do, but also the good things we fail to say and do, that dishonor the Lord and His Word before the church and the world.
  • Obedience to these injunctions silences those who are enemies of Christ.  The motivation is to glorify Him and to not bring Him dishonor.
  • The Lord commands us, “Let your light shine before men in such a way that they may see your good works and glorify your Father who is in heaven” (Mt. 5:16)
  • Writing about believers in Corinth, Paul said, “You are our letter, written in our hearts, known and read by all men; being manifested that you are a letter of Christ, cared for by us, written not with ink, but with the Spirit of the living God, not on tablets of stone, but on tablets of human hearts.” (2 Cor. 3:3)


  • Think biblically about what your life should entail.  Comes through prayer & Word.
  • You need to have the proper goals for your character and lifestyle.
  • You need to diligently work on the Christ-like character qualities in this passage.
  • God calls all of us to learn to be servants of all.
  • A woman’s life is a very  busy life. You have to plan wisely.  Learn to set priorities. Be guided by questions like these.
  • What time am I going to spend in the Word of God and prayer today?
  • Which areas of my character am I going to work on today – kindness, sensibility, purity, tongue, something I’m enslaved to.
  • How can I love and submit to my husband today?
  • How can I demonstrate love and care for my kids today?
  • What are the priorities at home that need to be done today? (Not what do I want to do)
  • Are there things I tend to neglect?  Do I need to cut back on other things & attend to these things at home?
  • How can I come along side a younger woman today and teach and encourage her?
  • Would I be wise to seek counsel of an older woman in some area?
  • Strive for excellence – Strive to live out the priorities of Titus 2.  Frequently evaluate yourself to see how you doing on your priorities.
  • How did I serve my husband today?
  • How did I minister to my children today? Etc.

As you diligently strive to live out the priorities of Titus 2, God will grant you the grace to live out these priorities to the best of your ability in whatever stage of life you’re in.

What’s the motivation?  What’s the purpose?

”so the Word of God will not be dishonored.” – Testimony of the godly woman.

Bottom line – one’s walk with the Lord.  Gratefulness, being content with husband, home, children, rooted in attitudes shaped by the Word of God & getting one’s heart right before God.


© Bill Reeves 2008
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Thoughts on Challenging us to be Titus 2 Women By Bill Reeves Part 2 Tags: Godly Heritage Godly women mothers Titus 2 wives women

Part 2: Now moving from the negative to the positive  

4th “older women” are to be known for “teaching what is good.

  • Comes from one Greek word meaning “teachers of good.” The Greek word refers to teaching that which is noble and excellent. Having taught their own children well, older women are given the responsibility for teaching younger women in the church.
  • The thought here is not teaching formal classes, holding seminars, writing books, retreats, recording CD’s, though there is a place for those.  No, the main idea presented here is the idea of older women living lives that display a model of goodness.

It’s something she is, it’s not something she simply does.

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When older women become empty nesters, they are not to live their lives as if they had no responsibility.

  • Parenting doesn’t stop when the kids are out of the house, whether they be single or married. (issues usually get bigger)  The same is true for within the church.
  • Older women are responsible to become teachers of the next generation. They accomplish this by coming alongside and modeling, discipling, mentoring and by setting the example of living a godly Christian life as a single woman, a married woman without kids, or a married woman raising a family and making a home.
  • Years of Bible study and practical experience enable older women to pass on valuable counsel to young women. Without this training, each new generation is doomed to learn the hard way, repeating the mistakes of the past. While the responsibility for teaching is put on the older women, any wise young person will cultivate the friendship of godly older women and solicit their advice and correction.
  • So we learn from verse 3 the responsibility of older women. We learn about her character.

Verse 4 begins with “that” which lets us know it’s a purpose clause. (1st of 4 in passage)

  • The purpose of older women modeling their lives as virtuous, godly women is so “that they may encourage the young women.” The word encourage as it is uniquely used here means to train. The best way to understand the way this word is being used here is the idea of training in self-control. In other words, older women are to teach young women that self-restraint, that self-discipline that trains them to be able to carry out their responsibility which is to “love their husbands, love their children, to be sensible, pure, workers at home, kind, being subject to their own husbands that the word of God may not be dishonored.”
  • This is the tremendous challenge commanded of older women.  (husbands should be in prayer for them) They are to be involved in a training process to raise a generation of sensible, disciplined, prudent, wise, discreet, restrained women who are committed to doing God’s will. The training process involves developing relationships; it involves the responsibility to confront and affirm.

Now who are the young women? What age group are we talking about?

  • In a general sense, it’s talking about women who are able to bear children or are still rearing children.
  • John MacArthur- “We’re generally talking about a premenopausal group of young women, those who are still able to give birth.”  (Child bearing /child rearing up to age 60)
    Older 60+ group, younger -60, still bearing children, capable of bearing children, or still rearing children)
  • The Roman Empire used 60 as the official age for someone who could be officially called old. This is not carved in stone. You’re not necessarily young at 59 and instantly old at 60. Before 60, a woman can reach out to teach and encourage women younger than herself, but her #1 priority is her husband, her children, and her home.
  • It doesn’t mean women past child rearing who are teaching younger women still don’t hold their husband, their children, grandchildren, and their home as their #1 priority.

Phyllis Sather said, “It’s a stage, not an age.”  Common sense + wisdom + age + spiritual = maturity…  What if the oldest woman in your church is age 49?

Continuing on in verse 4, older women are to encourage

  • (to train in the matter of self-restraint) young women to love their husbands, love their children, to be sensible, pure, workers at home, kind, being subject to their own husbands”
  • 1st they’re to train them to “love their husbands”
  • Paul is not talking about romantic or sexual love, which most certainly have a proper place in marriage. It’s not a feeling but rather a committed action. He’s talking about committed love that godly wives choose to have for their husbands, just as godly husbands choose to have for their wives. (Eph. 5: 25, 28)
  • “Philandros” translated from the Greek refers to willing determined love that is not based on a husband’s worthiness, but on God’s command and that is extended by a wife’s affectionate and obedient heart.
  • A young woman is to be taught to be a one man woman. This kind of love of wives and husbands for each other involves unqualified devotedness and is a friendship that is strong and deep.

Husbands, you want your wives to be devoted to you?

  • Do you love your wife like Christ loves the church?
  • And how much does Christ love the church?
  • He loves us thought we’re not worthy of His love.
  • The Lord loves us sacrificially.
  • He loves the church even though it’s made up of sinners.
  • He protectingly loves us.

That’s how we husbands are to love our wives, and that’s how wives are to love their husbands.  Most wives will reflect/respond to that kind of love. Huh!  That’s easy for you to say.

You don’t know my husband!

  • I don’t care about him anymore!  I don’t love him anymore!
  • In fact, he really turns me off!
  • Remember, it’s not a feeling but a committed action.
  • One commentator said, “It’s not simply that love of a husband is a virtue, but that not loving is a sin.”
  • If you don’t love your husband anymore, that’s disobedience to God’s Word. He is clear about that – “Wives, love your husbands.” Now that doesn’t mean your necessarily going to hear and see fireworks every time he’s in your presence.
  • According to research written about in Newsweek, in about 2 years the rockets, the bells, the whistles, that all goes.   It is much more likely that spontaneous fireworks, bells and whistles romances prove to be the ones that are artificial and short lived. If you don’t love your husband, then you need to train yourself to love him, and you do this by serving him, and that can only be done through a heart of reverence for the Lord. Contrary to what most people think, love that is carefully built and nurtured is not artificial, it’s a love that will grow.
  • If you are struggling with love for your husband, prayerfully examine your heart against the Word of God to see how you should respond towards him.  Training yourself to love involves doing things for your husband whether or not you feel like doing them.  Of course, the principle is reciprocal and applies equally to husbands.

A young woman can be taught the countless ways in which she can demonstrate

she loves and respects her husband by:

  • - acknowledging his headship in the home
  • - keeping an orderly home
  • - making no important decisions without his input
  • - looking after your personal appearance
  • - confessing promptly
  • - forgiving graciously
  • - living within the family’s means
  • - keeping open the lines of communication
  • - keeping from being critical of or contradicting him in front of others

Paul wrote the saints at Philippi, “Make my joy complete by being of the same mind, maintaining the same love, united in spirit, intent on one purpose.  Do nothing from selfishness or empty conceit, but with humility of mind let each of you regard one another as more important than himself; do not merely look out for your own personal interests, but also for the interests of others.” (Phil. 2: 2-4)

What can anyone add to that?

That admonition to all believers doesn’t exclude husbands and wives.  No, it applies in a very special way to them, which is why the foundation of a sound relationship between husbands & wives is their relationship with the Lord. When you sacrificially serve others, it’s very difficult not to love them. Where there is genuine, practical love demonstrated, genuine emotional love is going to follow.

© Bill Reeves 2008
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Find Part 1 here

My next post will begin with teaching young women to love their children.

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Making the Most of Homemaking Tips Shared by Older Titus 2 Women Part 3 Tags: cleaning cleaning Titus 2 women Homemaking Titus 2



  • However, I did grow up without hot running water.
  • My Dad always said we had running water – we just had to run to the well and pumped it!
  • We had a wood stove in the kitchen that had a reservoir for water.
  • It was our only source of hot water besides heating it on a 2 burner gas stove in a copper pan like I use to hold firewood today.
  • Needless to say, you did not want to be the one who forgot to put water into the reservoir.


  • Cleaning my first oven was an experience I’ll not soon forget.
  • This was not something my mother had taught me.
  • The fumes from the spray oven cleaner were terrible.
  • I spent hours scrubbing all the spokes on the racks.
  • I remember thinking that was not an experience I wanted to repeat anytime soon.
  • We didn’t use the spray can of stuff, but more natural cleaners.
  • She said cleaning it more often would actually mean less work over all.
  • Also wipe up spills as they happen rather than let them bake on.
  • Line the bottom with heavy duty foil that can easily be replaced.
  • And most importantly taught me how to clean those oven racks.
  • She soaked them for several hours or over night in her laundry tub with some de-greaser and laundry soap.
  • The last few baked on areas came off with a little elbow grease and I had clean racks with a lot less work.


  • Eventually I graduated to a used self-cleaning oven.
  • I was really excited to use this feature that would eliminate all my work.
  • Problem was I didn’t know you had to remove the racks or the shinny coating would all turn a dark ugly grey.
  • It was a real step up and did make oven cleaning much easier; but I lived with those ugly racks for many years.


  • Yup! I finally got my first new oven.
  • It’s all shinny – even the racks.
  • You can bet they go in the  laundry sink to soak during the oven cleaning.

This is part three of a series on homemaking tips that older women have shared with me. They will also contain some homemaking tips shared by me, since I’m well on my way to being an older woman.

 “…and so train the young women to love their husbands and children,” Titus 2:4 

Part 1

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